How can you resist : Cover Stories - MensHealth

How can you resist : Cover Stories - MensHealth

How can you resist

Nina Bhalla

You've met her on the Goa trip. Maybe you work with her. Maybe she belongs to a pal. She's hot and she's dangerous. But when flirting turns to invitation-and it's definitely not your imagination-you have a decision to make. Will you exit gracefully or act disgracefully?

"Rather than say, 'I would never have an affair,' be honest and look at what makes you vulnerable," says Dr Mahesh Nawal, President of ASECT (Association of Sexual Councellors and Therapists). As in driving, it's easier to avoid dangerous situations than escape from them. Here's your road map.

The chummy coworker
Ask yourself... Am I treating her just as I would a male coworker? "If not, then that's your warning," says Dr Nawal. "Re-establish a formal relationship and call her Ms Arora, not Saniya." When you're together... "Never close your door or blinds," says Scott Haltzman, MD, creator of the site www. Secretsofmarriedmen.com. "The more eyes on you the better." Never gripe about your home life-it's an invitation for her to "demonstrate" she's better than what you have.

The still-hot ex
Ask yourself... Could my girlfriend (or wife) be invited to this rendezvous? If not, "Don't have that meeting with the ex," says Dr Haltzman. "You need to remind yourself of how this woman was bad for you." Repeat the mantra: She's trouble-run. When you go... Tell your woman you're going to see your ex. "This automatically helps keep you in line because you know when you're done, your girl's going to ask you about it," says Dr Nawal.

The holiday-trip temptress
Ask yourself... What will happen after the sex? "The more you think it through, the easier it is to walk away," says Dr Nawal. Imagine everyone you're near has a hotline to your girl, Dr Haltzman suggests.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,